Bayanan
da muka yi a baya sun keɓu
ne da abin da mutum yake ji a zuciya, ko dai soyayya, ko ƙiyayya, ko kishi da dai
sauransu. Yanzu bari mu shiga maganar
auren kai tsaye, wanda a dalilinsa ne muka yi niyyar karanta wannan dan littafi
na KUNDIN MA'AURATA. Da farko tambayi kanka "Wai ni don me zan yi wannan
auren?"...
Kundin
Ma'aurata - 13: Maza na da Kishi
Baban Manar Alƙasim
Zauren
Markazus Sunnah
Koyaushe
maza suka tashi magana sai ka ji sun ce kishi kamar mace, a wannan maganar
kamar ana nuna cewa maza ba su da kishi ne, ko kuma kishin nasu bai kai wanda
mata suke yi ba, alhali na ga wata da aka harbe da bindiga, aka ce ba ita aka
yi niyya ba, saurayin ne, kuskure aka samu, wani kuma ya sa sandar fulani ya yi
wa wani na kusa da ni rotsi, da ƙyar
aka ceto ransa, an sha samun gayu suna narka wa samari dukan tsiya a kan mace,
zan iya tuna wani maƙwabcinmu
da ogansa ya ga budurwarsa sai ya kira shi ya ce ya rabu da yarinyar zai yi
masa goma ta arziƙi,
ya fada masa duk abubuwan da zai ba shi amma yaron ya ƙi.
Nan
ne ogan ya yi masa kashedin kora, gami da riƙe masa kudinsa da yake
hannunsa, yaron dai ya yi tsayayya, tabbas ya auri yarinyar amma ya ci baƙar wahala, don sai da ya
zama abin tausayi, wannan kam shi ne kishi na gaskiya, domin ogan nasa bisa
wasu bincike bai da niyyar auren yarinyar, sha'awa kawai ta ba shi, don haka
zai yi lalata da ita ya watsar, amma wancan bige-bigen da sare-sare da samari
suke yi a kawunansu shi ma ba abu ne mai kyau ba, sai dai ba za a hada shi da
wanda mata suke yi ba, duk da mun fadi wasu ayyukan hauka da mata suke yi,
wanda sun yi daidai da wanda mazan suke yi, kamar raba mutum da ransa, wanda
girman laifin a wurin Allah guda ne.
Sai
dai ni maganar da nake yi kamar ƙiyastawa
ce ta wurin hankali, mace tana ƙoƙarin ta hana 'yar uwanta ne
cin arziƙi
tare da ita, amma mijinta nanan a matsayin mijinta, kuma zai ba ta haƙƙoƙinta a matsayin mai ɗakinsa,
amma namiji bai da wannan damar, ko dai
ya sami matar ne ko ya rasa gaba daya, to shi a har kullum rashin yake kallo,
masamman ma in ya kasance shi ya fara nema, ka ga mace rabawa za a yi, shi kuwa
namiji rasawa zai yi.
Duk
da haka shi ma wannan tsabar hauka ne kawai, akwai dai kishi da muslunci ya yi
umurni da shi ga namiji, kamar ka killace iyalinka, ka hana wasu su kusance ta
ta kowace hanya, matuƙar
hakan bai fita da'irar halasci ba, duk dai shari'a ƙoƙari take yi ta hana
alfahasha da abin ƙi,
mace mumina ta tsaya ga mutun guda, yadda za a yi maganin alfahasha, shi kuma
zai iya hana mata 4 lalata da wasu mazan a waje, sai shari'a ta matsa matuƙa a kan dole namiji ya zama
mai kishi, dole ya tsaya ƙyam
wajen ganin iyalinsa ta zama kamammiya, ta kuma taimaka masa ta wurin nuna wa
matan irin suturan da za su iya sawa a waje, da irin adon da za su iya
bayyanawa, hatta ƙamshinnan
sai da aka kebe shi da gida, domin abubuwa uku suka fi ta da sha'awar maza a
adon mace.
Za
ka taras magabata sun riƙa
janyo hankulan 'ya'yansu mata da waɗannan
abubuwan, da cewa kar su dena yin su a gidajen aurensu, wato "Tozali,
turare da lalle", na zauna a wata ƙasa ta Larabawa na ga da
lalle ne ake gane matar aure, don ita za ta yi wa mijinta, mace mai sanya
turare ta fita kuwa muslunci ya yi kakkausar magana a kanta, inda ya sufanta ta
da mazinaciya, sannan ya hana ta cakuduwa da maza, ba wai don ba ta da imani
ba, don gaba dayanta ƙawa
ce, in wani ba ya sha'awarta wani ya ga abin da ya gani, a taƙaice dole maza su yi kishi
don haka shari'a ta tsara.
Bayan
Muƙaddima
Bayanan
da muka yi a baya sun keɓu
ne da abin da mutum yake ji a zuciya, ko dai soyayya, ko ƙiyayya, ko kishi da dai
sauransu. Yanzu bari mu shiga maganar
auren kai tsaye, wanda a dalilinsa ne muka yi niyyar karanta wannan dan littafi
na KUNDIN MA'AURATA. Da farko tambayi kanka "Wai ni don me zan yi wannan
auren?" Tabbas akwai dalilai masu dama da suke sa mutum ya yi sha'awar
aure, in ka ce za ka lissafo wani zai ce maka ba ka ambato dalilin da ya sa ya
yi nasa auren ba.
1)
Akwai wanda sha'awar macen ta lullube shi, wace ita ce babban dalilin da ya sa
yake sha'awar ganin ya yi aure.
2)
Wani haihuwa ke janyo hankalinsa, masamman idan ya ga sa'o'insa wannan yana da
'ya'ya biyu wancan 3 shi bai da kowa.
3)
Wani kuwa in ya kalli yadda mu'amular
ma'auratan take ne, sai ya ji ta burge shi, shi ma sai ya yi ƙoƙarin ganin ya sami tasa.
4)
Wani tsokanar da abokansa suke masa take sawa ya yi zuciya ya fara nema.
5)
Akwai wanda zai yi tunanin yana buƙatar
magaji, ba kuma hanyar da zai samu sai ta aure.
6)
Wani tausayin yarinya kawai yake ji, masamman in ya ga halin da take ciki.
7)
Wani yarinyar ta ce tana son sa shi kuma ya miƙa wuya.
8)
Wani sha'awar yarinyar ya yi, a dalilin wani abu na ƙwazo da ta yi, ko fice a
wani fanni, ko danganen mahaifinta na kudi ko sarauta ko shuhura da dai
sauransu.
9)
Wani mahaifansa ko 'yan uwansa ko abokai suka zabo masa suka ce ya je ya nema,
sai kuwa ya jarraba.
10)
Wani mummunar gaba ce take rikidewa ta koma soyayya ta ƙare da aure.
11)
Wani zama wuri guda ne soyayyar take shiga, kamar karatu ko aiki ko mu'amalar
kudi.
12)
Wani hanyoyin sadarwa ne na zamani suka hada su, a ƙarshe aka ƙare da aure.
13)
Wani natsuwar macen da kamun kanta da addini ya sa aka yi sha'awarta.
14)
Wani don tarbiyar 'ya'yansa yake aurowa. Haka dai abin yake.
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