Amma
a nan ba wai namijin ba zai taimaka wa macen ba ne wajen ba ta shawarar da ta
dace. Maganar ita ce, yaushe ya kamata ya fara
magana don nuna mata abin da za ta yi?
Tana son ta ga damuwar a fuskarsa tukun. Ko
bai nuna ba to ya...
Kundin
Ma'aurata - 4: Misali
Baban Manar Alƙasim
Zauren
Markazus Sunnah
A
wani littafi mai suna (Hatta Yabƙal
Hub p25), sun kawo labarin wata mata, Sumayya, lokacin da ta dawo gida a
gajiye, don neman na rufin asiri ita da yaranta. A lokacin tana da buƙatar yin hira da maigidanta
kan irin wahalhalun da ta sha a waje take cewa "Abubuwa sun runcaɓe min. Ban da wani lokaci na kaina
wanda zan dan biya wa kaina buƙatun
da suka taso min."
Da bude bakin maigidanta, wato Adil, sai ya ce "Da zan ba ki shawara kibar
aikin da kike yi a kamfaninnan kawai, maganar gaskiya ba ki da buƙatarsa, da ma za ki nemi
aiki a wani wurin da zai yi daidai da zarafinki na gida ya fi miki".
.
Sumayya
ta ce "Ni fa ina son aikin, kawai matsi ne ya yi yawa" Adil ya ce
"Manta da su! Ki yi abin da za ki iya kawai" ta ce "Ai abin da
nake yi kenan... Kai! Na gaji wallahi, ga shi ma na yi wa mamana alkawari ban
kira ta ba" ya ce "Kar ki damu, mace ce mai fahimta, za ta fahimce
ki" ta ce "Ba ta da lafiya fa, gaskiya tana buƙatata kusa da ita" ya
ce "Ke kin cika damuwa ne da ƙananan
abubuwa, shi ya sa da wahala ki sami kwanciyar hankali" sai ta fara magana
cikin fushi "Ni wallahi ban jin dadin magana da kai, shin zai yuwu wani
lokaci ka saurare ni?"
.
Jin
haka sai ya ce "To fadi, yanzu ina sauraronki" ta ce "Ina bata
lokacina kawai wai ina magana da kai" tun daganan sai ta riƙa damuwa ganin ba ya son ya
riƙa
kula da ita, ita tana son su riƙa
fahimtar juna, su zauna su riƙa
tattauna abubuwan da suka shafe su, wanda a ganinta wannan ne ma soyayyar amma
ba ta yi dace da wanda ya iya ba, shi ma Adil, wato mijin Sumayyan ya kamu da
tasa damuwar, don kuwa bai san abin da ya yi mata ba, shi yana ganin yana ƙoƙarin warware mata
matsalolinta ne, ita kuma ta dauki fushi ba gaira ba dalili.
.
A
zahiri adil bai san dabi'ar matarsa ba, ya dace kafin a kai ga nema mata
mafita, a lissafinta, tana son ya ba ta hankalinsa a farko, ya saurare ta
tukun, ya jinjina mata a kan aikin da take yi tukun, in ma mahaifiyar tata ce
ya biye mata da farko kafin a kai ga abin da yake ƙoƙarin ba ta shawara da shi,
ba ita ba mata da yawa in suna ba namiji labari sukan so ya tsaya ya saurare
su, ba wai a nema musu mafita ba, sauraron kansa mace tana ganin ƙarfafa gwiwa ne, da
jinjinawa gami da tausayawa, shi ya sa ita in yana ba ta labari takanyi shuru
ta saurare shi ta ƙarfafa
masa gwiwa.
.
Amma
a nan ba wai namijin ba zai taimaka wa macen ba ne wajen ba ta shawarar da ta
dace. Maganar ita ce, yaushe ya kamata ya fara
magana don nuna mata abin da za ta yi? Tana son ta ga damuwar a fuskarsa tukun. Ko bai nuna ba to ya saurare
ta, ya riƙa
jinjina mata, masamma Sumayya, ya nuna mata cewa lallai tana shan wahala, kuma
bai kamata a riƙa
matsa mata haka ba, bayan ya gama jin abin da take so ta gaya masa kenan, in ta
so sai ya fito mata ta wata hanyar don nuna mata abin da ya dace ta yi.
.
Yadda
Mace Take Jin Kanta
Mace
a ko'ina tana daukar soyayya da matuƙar
mahimmancin gaske, tana kuma sha'awar ganinta da son yin magana a kanta, a
kullum tunaninta ya za ta burge, me za ta yi a ce ta yi bajinta a ƙarshe a yaba mata? Don haka
ka zauna tare da ita kuna hira da dararraku da debe haso ya fi mata komai a
rayuwa, zai yuwu ta riƙacin
kaji, ta wanke goma tana tsoma biyar, duk abin da take so a yi mata cikin
gaggawa, ko a kaita inda take so, ta hau motoci masu tsada, amma ka riƙa ganinta cikin damuwa, har
ka yi zaton rashin godiyar Allah ne, ba haka ba ne.
.
Na
san mata da yawa wadanda suke samun goma ta arziƙi a wurin mazansu, kowa
sha'awarsu suke yi, amma ana gaya musu sai ka ga ransu ya baci, in ba ka san
abin da yake damunsu ba sai ka zaci maganarka take baƙanta musu rai, alhali tunawa
suke yi da irin alaƙar
da take tsakaninsu da mazajensu na rashin zama da jin matsalolin juna, shi yasa
dan abu na tasowa sai ka ji ta kira shi da mugu ko maƙetaci, ita a lissafinta
cutar da ita yake yi, wasu mazan a zahiri sun riga sun gaji a waje wajen neman
halas, sun yi ta kazar-kazar, kamanan kamacan don ganin sun samo abin da gida
yake buƙata,
da sun dawo sai kaga hutu kawai suke buƙata a daidai wannan lokacin,
kodai kallon talabijin koda kuwa abin da ake yi bai dada su da ƙasa ba.
.
Ko
kuma mutum ya dauki waya yana dan latse-latse, a zahiri nan hutu yake yi don
jiki da jini, wannan shi ne babban hanyar samun natsuwa a wurinsa, ita kuwa sai
ta yi ta jansa da hira, in ya ri biris da ita sai ta dauka wulaƙanci ne, in ba a kai hankali
nesa ba wata rana sai ka ga an fara sa-in-sa, masamman ma da yake wasu matan
abin farko da za su fara da shi shi ne matsalolin cikin gida, da kuma abubuwan
da gidan yake buƙata,
in ya kasance buƙata
ba ta biya ba, ko bai da isasshen kudi sai ka ga an sami wani tashin hankalin,
da kamata ya yi ta ba shi lokaci ya sarara, ya ci abinci ya natsa, in ta so sai
daga ba ya in ta ga sarari ta bijiro masa da maganganun da take so.
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