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As-Salamu
Alaikum, Tun da na yi aure yau kusan shekaru huɗu
da rabi ke nan, babu kwanciyar hankali: Mijin ba ya haihuwa. Ga rikicin dangin
miji. Sannan bayan shekaru biyu da auren ya samu matsalar rashin ƙarfin
iya gamsar da iyali. Kodayake daga baya ya ɗan
samu sauƙi,
amma dai a lokacin ya riga ya fita a raina, kuma ba ya iya gamsar da ni. Na kai
kuka wurin iyayena amma sun gaza fahimta ta. Sun ɗauka
wai na ƙi
yi musu biyayya ne, alhali ni kuma ina cutuwa ne. Ina tunani a raina kamar in
kai shi ƙara
kotu. Na rasa yadda zan yi. Ku taimake ni, pls.
𝐀𝐌𝐒𝐀❗️
Wa Alaikumus
Salaam Wa Rahmatul Laah.
Matsalar
rashin kwanciyar hankali, da rikicin dangin miji, wannan ana fama da shi kusan
a kowane gida a wannan zamanin. Kuma mace ita take ɗaukar matakan da suka kamata yadda da sadda
suka kamata a cikin hikima da kyautatawa da biyayya ga manya da tausaya wa ƙanana,
bayan yawaita addu’o’i ga Ubangijin Halittu har
ta ciwo kan al’amura,
ta warware su da izinin Allaah Mabuwayi Mai Iko.
Amma matsalar
rashin haihuwa da rashin ƙarfin miji waɗanda
suka kai ga har ya fice miki a rai, waɗannan
ne muhimman matsalolin da ya wajaba a samo maganinsu, tare da matsalar gaza
fahimta ko ganewa daga iyaye!
Da farko cutar
rashin haihuwa iri-iri ce:
(1) Akwai
wacce ake yin maganinta a wurin likitoci a asibiti, saboda asalinta matsala ce
da ta shafi rashin lafiyar wani sashe daga cikin sassan jiki da ke kula da
al’amuran haihuwa.
(2) Akwai
wacce sai a wurin malamai masana harkar ruquya ta Sunnah ake samun maganinta,
domin cutar tana da alaqa ce da shaiɗanun
aljanu da mutane. Don haka, duk yadda aka yi bincike a asibiti da wuya a iya
gano matsalar ma, balle a san maganinta.
(3) Sannan
kuma akwai matsalar da dalilinta ba rashin lafiya ba ne. Haka nan kawai Allaah
Ta’aala ya halicci wannan mutum: Allaah bai ƙaddara masa samun haihuwa ba. Ita dai
maganinta sai a yawaita addu’o’i da tawali’u da ƙan-ƙan-da-kai ga Allaah, kamar dai na sama da
ta gabata.
Haka kuma
matsalar rashin ƙarfi: Ita ma akwai ta asibiti wacce idan likitoci suka bincika
suna iya gano musabbabinta kuma su bayar da magunguna. Daga baya kuma a samu
waraka da izinin Allaah Ta’aala.
Akwai kuma
matsalar da sai malaman ruquya suke iya gano ta kuma su bayar da maganinta.
Kuma in aka dace sai ka ga an samu waraka, da izinin Allaah Ubangijin Halittu.
Idan aka gano
matsalar kafin aure, wajibi ne a sanar da mai nema ko wacce ake nema tun
nesa-da-ƙofa,
don kar ya zama an yaudare shi an cuce shi. Idan kuwa aka ƙi
yin hakan, to daga baya alƙali na iya ɗaukar
matakin horo ga wanda ko waɗanda
suka ɓoye wannan irin
aibun, suka cutar da musulmi.
Amma idan ba a
san da matsalar ba sai a bayan aure, kamar irin wannan matsalar (ta rashin ƙarfin
iya biyan buƙatar mata), to abin da ake yi a shari’a, in ji malamai shi ne: Sai alƙali ya bai wa mijin
damar neman magani na tsawon shekara guda. Idan aka dace shike nan, idan kuma
ba a dace ba to sai a raba auren kawai, idan abokin zaman auren ya yarda. Haka
Abdur-Razzaaq da Ibn Abi-Shaibah suka riwaito daga Ibn Mas’uud (Radiyal Laahu
Anhu) kuma Al-Albaaniy ya inganta shi a cikin Al-Irwaa’u: 1911 , sannan kuma ba
a san wanda ya saɓa
masa daga cikin Sahabbai ba.
Sai dai wannan
yana ga mijin da ba ya iya saduwa ne kwata-kwata. Amma wanda ya ke da matsalar
rauni ko rashin ƙarfin gaba, ta yadda yana iya saduwar amma dai ba ya iya
gamsar da matar ce, a kan wannan malamai irin su As-Shaikh Ibn Al-Uthaimeen
(Rahimahul Laah) sun ce, shi ba daidai ya ke da wanda ba ya iya saduwar kwata-kwata
ba. (As-Sharhul Mumti’u)
Don haka,
wajibin iyaye a nan shi ne: Su kalli girman matsalar da damuwar da ’yarsu take
ciki, ba irin abin da suke tsammanin aukuwarsa na faɗuwar girma ko zubar mutuncin gidansu ba. Su ɗauki matakin taimaka
mata, gudun kar ta faɗa
a cikin hallaka. Su zurfafa bincike a cikin wannan al’amarin da idanun basira:
Idanun da suka goge a cikin fahimtar yanayin rayuwar matasan yau da hikimominsu
da dabarbarunsu. Idan an gano gaskiyar matsalar, cewa mijin ba ya iya saduwa da
matarsa, to babu wani laifi a shari’a idan manya suka zauna suka warware wannan
auren, kamar yadda da ma can zama suka yi suka ɗaura
shi.
A nan ba sai
an kai ga shiga kotu ba, balle wani ya ji ko ya ga an tozarta shi, ko an wulaƙanta
shi, sai dai in ya zama dole.
Sannan ita
kuma matar aure wajibinta shi ne: Ta yi taka-tsantsan da duk abin da ya shafi
miji ko iyayenta. Kar ta yi gaggawar bijire musu, da ɗaukar matakin saɓa musu. Yawanci wannan ba ya haifar da ɗa-mai-ido.
Ta bi su a
hankali cikin hikima da ladabi da biyayya da addu’a har Allaah ya sa su fahimce
ta, kuma har buƙatarta ta biya. Sai a lokacin da al’amuran suka kai Laa haula Walaa Quwwata ne, ko kuma
suka zama Maa laa budda ne, sannan ake ɗaukar
matakin rabuwa. Ko a nan ɗin
ma iyayen ne dai suke wucewa gaba.
Sannan kuma ta
sani cewa: Ba duk abin da mutum yake tsammani ne yake zama daidai ba. Me yiwuwa
matsalar rashin gamsuwa da mijinki da kike kuka da shi, ba daga mijin ba ne,
daga wurinki ne. Kuma bincike ne kawai zai iya tabbatarwa.
Me yiwuwa kuma
babu laifin komai daga wurinki ko daga wurin mijinki. Tunanin zuciya ne kawai
ke hana samun natsuwar rai da samun gamsuwar.
Dole ki amince
cewa: Samun cikakken natsuwa da farin ciki da jin daɗi da gamsasshiyar biyan buƙata
ga musulmi sai a Gidan Aljannah. Wannan wataƙila shi ne manufar iyayenki a irin
matsayinsu da suka ɗauka.
Don haka, ta yi haƙurin rage ƙarfin ƙiyayyar da ta shiga cikin zuciyarta
dangane da halin mijinta. Ta amince da shi idan aka samu maganin da ya warware
matsalarsa. Domin kamar yadda suke cewa ne: Da sabon gini gwanda yaɓe !
Yanzu idan
kika rabu da wannan mijin ba da dalili ƙwaƙƙwara na shari’a ba, wane yaƙinin kike da shi cewa wani mijin da za ki
aura a bayansa ba zai zama mai irin wannan matsalar ba ne, ko kuma mai matsalar
ma da ta fi ta wannan ɗin?!
A taƙaice
dai, wajibi ne matasan musulmi su riƙa juriya da bin abubuwa a cikin rayuwa
sannu-sannu cikin natsuwa da lura, tare da ɗaukar
shawarwarin manya daga cikin iyaye da malamai da sauran masana a cikin
al’amuransu, don taimakawa ga samun ingantattun hanyoyin warwarewa ga
matsalolinsu.
Allaah ya
taimake mu. Ya ƙara gyara mana gidajen aurenmu.
WALLAHU A'ALAM
Muhammad
Abdullaahi Assalafiy
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