Shawarwari Ga Matar Da Mijinta Ke Neman Mata

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Assalamu alaikum, malam dapatan kuna lafiya ya iyali, dan Allah malam addu'a nake so a taimaka man da ita ta haɗin kan iyali saboda duba da yana yin da muke ciki a yanzu kana zaune lafiya da mai-gidanka da yaranka a lokacin da zai kara aure wata ta yi abin da zai rabaka da mijinka da yaranka baki ɗaya Dan Allah a taimaka Kuma wasu mazajen sukan rinka kule-kulen ‘yanmata musamman a social media har takai ana yin abin da bai dace bah Kuma ba aurensu zai yi bah Saboda lokacin iyalinsa a taimaka mana da addu'a da shawarwari, Na gode.,Allah ya ƙara ƙaunar SAYYADINA RASULULLAHI SALALLAHU ALAIHI WASALLAM.

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Wa alaikis salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.

Tabbas da yawa daga cikin mazaje basu fahimci irin Ƙunar zuciyar da matayensu ke fuskanta ba ne a lokacin da suka Ƙi basu lokacinsu, kuma ba wai saboda sun yi musu wani laifi ba, kuma ba don saboda wani muhimmin aikin da ya ɗauke hankalinsu ba, sai don saboda yin chatting da 'Yan mata a facebook ko whatsapp.

Allah Maɗaukakin Sarki ya umurci mazaje cewa wajibi ne su rike matayensu bisa amana kuma su kyautata mu'amalarsu dasu. Hakanan kuma ya faɗa a cikin Suratul Baƙarah cewa "SU MA (MATAYEN AURE) SUNA DA HAKKI (AKAN MAZAJENSU) KWATANKWACIN IRIN HAƘƘIN da ke KANSU NA MAZAJENSU".

Wato kamar yadda ya zama wajibi akan mace ta girmama mijinta kuma ta kyautata masa, ta bashi dukkan lokacinta, to shi ma wajibi ne ya girmamata amatsayin ta na mutum, ya girmamata amatsayin ta na musulma muminah, sannan ya girmamata amatsayin ta na amanar Allah da ke karkashin kulawarsa, kuma ya ba ta dukkan lokacinsa aduk lokacin da yake gida, sannan ya rika kiyaye abin da zai kawo zargi da zubewar mutunci tsakaninsa da iyalinsa.

Shawarar da zan baki awannan yana yin shi ne ki yi iyakar bakin kokarinki wajen ɗaukar hankalinsa ta hanyar tsafta da Ƙayatar da Girkinki, jikinki da dakinki da shimfidarki, da gidan ma baki ɗaya.

Sannan ki lalubo duk wani laifin da kika san baya so, ki gyara, ki kyautata duk wata mu'amala tsakaninki da shi, sannan kema ki rika tura masa kalaman soyayya ta hanyar text ko da yana wajen aiki ko kasuwarsa.

Idan ya dawo gida kuma ki tarairayi abinki, ki nuna masa tamkar baki da wani uzuri aduniyar nan bayan ibadunki na farilla sai kula da mijinki. Mafiya yawan matan hausa/fulani kamar wani irin girman kai ke damunsu. Suna ganin tamkar sunfi karfin su bawa namiji haƙuri idan sun yi masa laifi, kuma suna jin nauyin su rika tarairayarsa.

Ba wani abu ba ne yake ɗauke hankalin wasu mazajen auren daga kan matayensu, har su koma yin chatting da 'yan mata fache rashin samun tausasan kalamai daga matansu na aure, da rashin jituwa, da rashin saurin warware matsalolin gida ta hanyar laluma da sulhu.

Daga ƙarshe kuma ina baki shawarar ki Ƙara haƙuri da juriya da kuma mayar da hankali wajen kyautata zance da mu'amala da maigidanki, sannan ki yawaita kula da karatun Alƙur'ani da nafilfilin dare, da zikirin Allah ako yaushe.

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 Shawarwari Ga Matar Da Mijinta Ke Neman Mata

Tambaya:

Assalamu alaikum malam. Ina roƙon shawara da addu’a saboda wani lokaci mijina yana kallon wasu mata musamman a social media, wanda hakan yana damuna sosai. Ina neman hanyar haɗin kan iyali da tabbatar da zaman lafiya da mijina da yarana.

Amsa:

Wa alaikumus salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.

Tabbas, irin wannan matsala tana damun matayen aure sosai, musamman idan mijin yana kula da wasu mata a social media ko wasu wurare. A Musulunci, akwai hakki da wajibi tsakanin miji da mata a aure:

Hakkin Miji Akan Matar Aure:

Allah Ya umurci mazaje su rike matayensu bisa amana kuma su kyautata mu’amala da su.

وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ

(Surah An-Nisa: 19)

“Ku zauna da matanku cikin kyakkyawar mu’amala.”

Hakkin Matar Aure Akan Miji:

Mata ma suna da hakki kan mazajensu. Suratul Baqarah ta bayyana cewa:

لَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ

(Surah Al-Baqarah: 228)

“Mata suna da hakki irin wanda ke kansu, cikin kyakkyawar mu’amala.”

Wannan yana nufin cewa, kamar yadda mace ke mutunta miji, ta kula masa da lokaci, ya zama wajibi ga miji ya girmama matar aure, ya ba ta lokaci, kulawa da tausayi, da gujewa abubuwan da zasu kawo shakku da rashin jituwa.

Shawarwari na Aiki

Kyautata Zance da Mu’amala:

Ki yi iyakar kokarinki wajen jan hankalinsa ta tsafta, kyau da girkinki, da dakinki da gidan baki ɗaya.

Ki gyara duk wani hali ko laifi da kika san yana damun shi.

Tura Kalaman Soyayya:

Ki tura masa kalamai na soyayya ta text ko saƙo, koda yana wajen aiki ko kasuwanci, domin ya ji ƙaunar ki.

Tarairayi Mijin:

Idan ya dawo gida, ki tarairayi shi, ki nuna masa farin ciki da kasancewar sa, kamar dai babu wani uzuri na duniyar nan bayan ibadunki.

Haƙuri da Juriya:

Haƙuri shine mabuɗin warware matsalolin gida. Yin haƙuri da juriya da kyakkyawar mu’amala zai sa mijinki ya koma zuwa gare ki.

Ibada da Karatun Qur’ani:

Ki yi ƙoƙari wajen karatun Qur’ani, nafilfilin dare, da zikirin Allah a ko da yaushe. Wannan yana kare zuciya daga sharrin shaiɗan da tunani mara kyau.

Guji Girman Kai:

Wasu mata suna jin tamkar sun fi karfin haƙuri wajen gyara mu’amala, wanda hakan yana sa mijin ya nemi wani abu a waje. Kyautata haƙuri da girman kai yana taimakawa wajen jituwa da aure.

Kammalawa

Yin waɗannan abubuwa in shaa Allah zai ƙara haɗin kai da zaman lafiya a cikin gidan aure.

Haka zalika, addu’a tana da muhimmanci sosai: ki nemi Allah Ya tsare mijinki daga duk wani abin da zai kawo rarrabuwar kai da iyali.

WALLAHU A’LAM.